Geeking is all about knowing what you like, who you like, how you like, and when it's not what you like...but like all things worth some time you will either spend year searching or you will have to research.
Here's a few years worth of research , ready and waiting for you...
Womanist Blogs and Intersectional feminist blogs to get you started
My favorite....tigerbeatdown of Flavia Dzodan my feminism will be intersectional or it will be bullshit fame.
scarleteen- the best safer sex resource out there
feminist porn awards
how do youm masturbate?
The problematic but still frequently point having feministing.com
Early to Bed -sex advice, classes, the 35$ toy party,female and male friendly toy shopping, trans and queer friendly, the best toys ever, legitimate reviews, mail order, 4$ indie porn rentals and a velvet vulva puppet.
Oh joy Sex toy- a cartoon sex toy review
good for her feminist porn award winners
http://polykinkyqueeradvice.tumblr.com/ -Good even if you are not poly kinky or queer
BOOKS- dozens more to be added soon
Whole Lesbian Sex Book Celis Press
Carol Queen’s Real Live Nude Girl: Chronicles of Sex-Positive Culture
Whipping Girl: A Transsexual Woman on Sexism
The Scapegoating of Femininity by Julia Serrano
Sex Motherhood and Cherry Pie by Susie Bright.
Transgender Workbook-Kate Bornstein-It is my opinion that everyone should read this book in 6th grade or so to reduce the prevalence of becoming flaming a-holes at this age.Excluded- Julia Serano
Most of these are available through Chicago Public Libraries ,or if you are so inclined at Gerber-Hart Library and Archive
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